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The Laws of Desire
Ovid's Art of Love, Rebuilt for the Age of the Dating App
He thought love was a siege. He thought you took the city.

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Two thousand years ago, a Roman poet wrote a manual on seduction. He was exiled for it.
A long, wry look at what we actually do to each other, and why we keep doing it.

The Ars Amatoria, Rebuilt for the Age of the Dating App

Two thousand years ago, a Roman poet named Ovid wrote a manual on seduction. He was witty, cynical, and enormously popular. He was also, eventually, exiled. His book taught men how to find a woman and how to keep her, and then, in a third book, taught women how to defend themselves against everything he had just explained. The Laws of Desire is that book, rebuilt for the age of the dating app.

Why Ovid's Metaphor Was Wrong

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Sobre la historia que inspiró Cuarenta y Siete Puñaladas


En el corazón de uno de los escándalos más impactantes de la Francia del siglo XIX se encuentra Henriette Deluzy-Desportes, institutriz de los hijos del duque de Praslin. Amada por los niños y respetada por el duque, Henriette se convierte en el blanco de la desconfianza feroz de la duquesa, cuya conducta cada vez más errática desencadena una cadena de acontecimientos trágicos que marcarán para siempre a toda la familia.
En 1938, la escritora Rachel Field llevó este caso a la literatura con All This and Heaven Too, una novela que se convirtió en un bestseller internacional y que más tarde fue adaptada al cine en una exitosa película protagonizada por Bette Davis y Charles Boyer. Su obra consolidó la imagen de Henriette como una mujer inocente atrapada en un torbellino de celos, poder y obsesión.
Cuarenta y Siete Puñaladas retoma esta historia casi noventa años después, pero desde un ángulo completamente distinto: la voz del propio asesino, el duque Charles de Choiseul-Praslin. A través de su confesión íntima y perturbadora, la novela cuestiona todo lo que creíamos saber sobre el crimen que estremeció a la monarquía francesa y ofrece una mirada más profunda a los impulsos humanos que pueden destruir un imperio desde dentro.

Three Books, One Argument


Two parts speak to men and one to women, and none of them is a self-help manual.
It offers no five-step programs. It is a long, wry look at what we actually do to each other, and why we keep doing it. Ovid is not the guide here. He is the specimen.
Along the way, the book looks at:

  • The profile photo, the read receipt, and the sixth first date of the month

  • The vanity, the waiting, and the small humiliations we endure to be wanted

  • Why presence is not a technique

  • Why the only campaign worth waging is the one conducted on yourself

The scenery has changed. The human material is stubbornly identical.

Explora la intersección de la historia documentada y la leyenda familiar

The colonnades of Rome have become the glow of a phone screen, and the lover waiting at the doorstep has become a profile photo and a read receipt.

Ovid believed that desire was a campaign: study the terrain, choose your tactics, take the city. This book argues that the metaphor was wrong then and is wrong now.

What it finds instead is simpler and harder. We want to be wanted, we endure small humiliations to get there, and the person most worth loving is the one who has done the work on himself or herself first.

A Note from the Author

I did not write this as a guide. I wrote it as a reader of Ovid who watched the dating app replace the colonnade, and noticed that nothing underneath had changed.

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Read the Book

Start with the question Ovid never asked: what makes a person worth loving?

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Secure your copy and begin the argument.

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